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Financing

For years the man of the house has always been the breadwinner of the family and the woman keeps the house running smoothly. This has worked fairly well when the family works together and has good communication, part of this communication is talking about money and how/where it is going to be spent. Planning out a budget as a couple is a great way to avoid confrontation with in the marriage when it comes to money, this budgeting helps to track where to money is going and where it should be going. It is really easy to filter all our thinking through money as a sense of power but if you know where the money will be going than you can focus on other things as a couple.  It is also important to teach your kids the importance of money skills so that they can learn to be smart with it early and they can avoid the headache of debt and other things like that. Along with teaching them money skills, we need to be teaching them the importance of working for their money outside the home. We sho
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Communication and Problem solving

In the family there is almost always conflict. A serious argument or a disagreement might last for longer than we anticipated and its important for us as a family to have good communication to talk out our problems and resolve things that might not be able to resolve themselves. The Holy Ghost also plays a big role in the communication that we have because he is able to enlighten our minds to the needs of others and can help us become more aware of those in our families and sometimes outside our families. Satan seeks to destroy the family through contention because he knows that the home is a place that can be a place of refuge for us to escape the world. As we rely on the Holy Ghost to help us communicate with those around us, we must make a conscience effort to get along with our family and draw in the Saviors love through serving others.  The Lord has sent worthy men to the earth to become fathers and to receive the priesthood, these men preside over the families and help become a m
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Stress

The family experiences lots of different stressors, but it’s how they deal with those is what can make or break the relationships within the family. A crisis can be defined as a time of difficulty or trouble, the family experiences this a lot because there is a lot of opposition to the family in these last days. We must learn how to cope with these crises because only with pressure can we fill all the gaps and learn how to work together as a family and to make the necessary changes for the good of the family. Stress is a necessary part of our lives and in our family relationships, without stress there is no room to grow and learn how to cope as a family unit. Coping with something isn't just getting by and ignoring the problem, it's about taking the issue and learning how to incorporate that thing into your daily life or it's about teamwork and fixing it as a cohesive family unit. To avoid future stressors It's important that as parents that you set clear, firm, an
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Sexual Intimacy and Family Life

I think there is a common misconception that sex is just something you don't talk about, and when you get married everything in your love life will be fine and dandy because your needs are being fulfilled in that aspect. There are many problems that can arise if you don't have good communication both outside of the bedroom as well as inside the bedroom. If someone isn’t getting what they want sexually often times they will turn outside of the marriage to satisfy their desire, challenges with this could be lack of contact, some people stop touching each other entirely in fear that it will lead to more intimate things and if they aren't getting what they want then they might not want to engage in those things. Intimacy isn't about being two people together, it’s about being unified and being one cohesive couple that works together to make both sides happy. Communication in intimacy can help for better understanding which can lead to accommodation so that
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Are all cultures equally valid?

week 5/8-5/12 In the world When asked the question "are all cultures equally valid" our automatic response is yes! we say yes to make ourselves seem accepting of other or that's what we think other people want to hear. but if we actually take the time to think about that question I honestly think that not all cultures are valid, I think that if we look at these various cultures through God's eyes then not even our own culture is valid because Satan has a huge influence on the world and often times we change laws and procedures based on his influence, for example how drugs are legal or the US government making gay marriage legal. these things go against God’s law both because violate the commandments that the Lord put in place to guide us to make good decisions. Even though the validity of various culture can change person to person, the way they go about running the country can still be effective based on how they do it, if they use a democratic way then the way
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The Family as a System

Each family is very different and they all have different systems that makes them work or in some cases not work. Within each of these systems there are rules, like in my family we weren’t allowed to get a cell phone until we were 14 and when we were older we had a curfew of midnight. These rules might have seemed outrageous at the time but these were put in place to make sure my siblings and I would know how to follow rules and make sure we are safe. There are many family systems that work for that family and only that family, it is hard for others to see how a family works without either being close to that family or being in it. Throughout history parent have used negative feedback while punishing their kids like if their kid does something that they don’t like, instead of correcting the behavior. More parents need to use positive reinforcement to ensure the good behavior that the kids are doing rather than the opposite. We need to be more mindful of the different kinds of fami
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Does it matter how many kids we have?

In the world today there are many trends. A trend is defined as a general direction in which something has developed or is developing as well as changing. we see these trends in all aspects of our lives whether it be the trends on social media or the trends on fashion. The trends of the world also have an impact on the family.They include, not getting married until you're older and when you are married you wait to have kids till both spouses are well established in their careers and can financially support their future children. These trends have many impacts on the family, if parents are waiting to have kids then that can impact the way the kids are raised because they have less time to spend with their kids because they are working or just don't have the energy to play with them, often times these parents will rely on technology as a “babysitter” because it can entertain them for hours on end. In our society it is popular to have less kids, many see this as a selfish re
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